The most difficult thing in family life is the ability to find compromises and solve all issues together, without taking all the responsibility for someone. A few manages to maintain their marriage precisely because of the not finding a common language, as well as because of the nuances of education-each family contributes to this business and the vision of different families in this regard may not coincide.
And then you have to look for a couple — a psychologist in relations is ideal — to solve this problem. Of course, if both people want to keep their love. This doctor contributes to the establishment of contacts between people, so you need to go to the reception both separately and together. He will reveal in a personal conversation your fears about each other, teach to trust each other, try to change the stereotypes imposed by the family if they interfere with your happy life together.
The last task is especially necessary for people brought up in severity, with conservative views like
“Sex is bad, and homosexuality is sin”;
“The wife is silent, listens, fulfills, but has no opinion”;
“You cannot wear short skirts, paint and smile at men”;
“If you have no children, then you are not a woman”;
«The man has the right to change».
Some problems of pairs are already solved in a couple of sessions with a psychologist when they are voiced by each other. After all, the main trouble of all of them is that people do not know how to talk about painful, believing that the partner should guess about everything himself. And if this does not happen, then the conflicts are inevitable.
Propuring problems is the main task for a psychologist, what he seeks to push you to. The client must tell himself what is happening to him and why, and his second half is obliged to listen and understand his partner, the only way to achieve an effective result and direct their relations along the right path.
